In life, forever there are so many priorities, tasks, roles to play and plannings that will eventually distract people from the very basic, yet significant thing-to-do – cherish loves. Many times, things are said much easier than done and things will only be done when there would be no use just saying. It’s very common to know that people actually understand the phrase ‘learn to treasure before it’s gone’, but majority of them are always at the ‘learning stage’ instead of already applying it in life to prove it’s learnt, and that ‘learning stage’ sometimes could last for decades or even up till when they’re on their death bed before they deeply and entirely understand the meaning behind. In short term, people tend to temporarily comprehend the true meaning only when they’re about to lose something/someone or sadly to say, when they already lost that something/someone. Oh let me repeat, that’s temporary. After which, when they gain back something, the vicious cycle play back once more. How piteous a human’s thinking is.
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So when one ‘unintentionally’ forgets to cherish, he/she will tend to take things for granted and start assuming that everything comes this easy and also, nothing will change (worst conjecture ever).
For family relationship, taking things for granted will result in many precious moments wasted and the time being with them reaching its limits as time flies. Family love is, needless for any explanation, always the ’shelter’ during our rainy days and because of this very natural support that most people are borned to have, some take it for granted by only seeking this ’shelter’ at the last resort and leaving it to rust when times are good.
For friendship wise, I always strongly believe that good friends are hard to come by and it’s a guarantee that they accompany us the longest during our living moments, thus they will more or less understand us to a high extent, which is why we should learn to cherish good friends a lot even when everything else has to be prioritised.
For love relationship wise (married or not), I suddenly recall I have also posted similar entry in my previous blog that the chemistry between a pair of couples would DEFINITELY start fading when both begin to take one another for granted. The ‘love’ will eventually and gradually change to ‘feelings’ and then to being used to having each other and lastly to discovering the emptiness. It is something really amazing because no matter what and no matter how long it goes, it always takes the two roles to commit wholeheartedly and it must be without fail. If only one is playing his/her role properly, the relationship would still go on but would never last long. When a serious problem occur which is leading to losing the other half and one only starts to love and treasure, that’s not ‘cherishing’, that’s solely ‘making up’ to cover the lack of actions in the past, or should I define as ‘a behaviour done to create self-comfort’ so one would not feel too regretful towards it? Too many guessings, assumptions and conclusions but generally, all come from one reason – people don’t know/can’t remember how to cherish others around them until the very last pathetic moment. Seriously, sometimes people just have to lose something in order to learn something.
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I hate to feel regretful towards loved ones. Hence, I understand that I’ m the all-or-nothing sort of person. When I’m all ready to commit, I will give in my best no matter what outsiders were to say. Unfortunately, sometimes that would lead to people taking it for granted. Yeah, it’s reasonable. Who on earth doesn’t like to be loved, cared and given by someone else more than he himself or she herself can give? People usually like to receive more than what they can afford to pay, that’s rational. So whenever I think that I’ve been giving in too much, so illogically much that I find it ridiculous and wasteful, all my commitments will cease instantly, but I will tell myself that I’ve once done my best, there’s nothing to feel sorry for. And that’s it, once switched to the ‘nothing’ mode, it is difficult to turn back. Not impossible, but rather tough. I believe girls/women with very independent mindset will agree with me in this case.
Cherishing something/someone doesn’t need tons of gold or too much of effort. It can be easily proven with many little meticulous doings or caring actions. Thus, I always, never fail, to prefer hand-made stuff over luxury because I believe love is measured by sincerity, not wealth or power. I believe most of the people that knows/hears that will totally agree, but in actual fact, how many will apply? I also believe everyone is clear that they gotta cherish people around them, but yet again, how many will affirm? But of course, spending money for loved ones to have a comfortable lifestyle is necessary. That applies to family love and that is why I decide to start off a career doing sales. =))
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After all, I know that I cherish all my loved ones a lot and that’s why I tend to lose focus easily. Haha. It’s just how we want our life to be and how we want things to be prioritised! Simple, isn’t it?
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Quote of the day: Never take things for granted and wait to cherish for time is never enough for the last minute actions. Start cherishing your loved ones from today if you have yet begun. =)
